Guy im dating made tentative plans
If you reach that point, just make sure you are clear on what you really want yourself, say what you need to say and be done with the conversation.
Don’t drag it out into a conversation that you keep revisiting.
That always results in the guy becoming more withdrawn.
After all, why would he want to commit himself more to a girl who’s nagging him already, right at the beginning of a relationship!
Maybe my situation is unusual, but in general , after several dates, is it okay for a girl ask a guy to hang out sometimes?
I have to tell you, my e-mail box is FILLED with e-mails about how some guy didn’t text back or didn’t call or didn’t set his Facebook status to say “In a relationship”, etc.
In previous posts, I’ve talked about how when a guy is being flaky, doesn’t text back, or isn’t doing something you want him to do, the worst response is to become needy.
In your case, you weren’t needy – you didn’t make a big deal about it and you backed off when he wasn’t putting in the effort that you expect.
However, you mentioned that he shows more of an effort when you “care less”, so I would say that if that’s what works, why not hang back and let him put in the effort.
When it comes to people, it doesn’t matter what you think people should respond to – it only matters what they actually do respond to.